CROSS PURPOSES
Have you ever exchanged harsh words with you father?

As children grow up, there are stages in their life when they find it difficult to talk to their parents and the parents equally have difficulty in talking to their children. So communication becomes a problem as either it ceases altogether or they find themselves talking at cross purposes – neither party understanding the other.
Often it begins with the parents trying to set standards for the family and the children resenting such authority. Cross purposes is a good description as it frequently generates much anger and may end with the breakdown of relationships. Unfortunately, it may result in children leaving the family home or being turned out of it, and the relationship may never be restored and healed. Difficulties between fathers and their offspring are not new. The Bible records many incidents where the relationship between father and son(s) is less than amicable or honest and they are talking at cross purposes, sometimes deliberately.
Jacob deceived his father Isaac (Genesis 27), which made it necessary for him to have to leave the family home (Genesis 27.41-44). In turn, Jacob’s sons deceived their father when they became jealous of his favouritism towards his youngest son, Joseph (Genesis 37). Eli’s sons refused to follow his example or listen to his advice (1 Samuel 2.22-25) and appalled him by theway they were living. Saul threw a spear at his son Jonathan because he disapproved of his friendship with David (1 Samuel 20.28-33) and David’s son, Absalom, rebelled against his father in order to seize the throne, forcing
David to flee from Jerusalem (2 Samuel 15.9-14). God knows all about difficult relationships, then and now, and what it takes to restore them when we get at cross purposes with parents, family or others. Jesus told a parable about two sons
(Luke 15,11-32), one of whom had insisted on being given his inheritance by his father. There must have been strong words exchanged as this not only challenged the father’s position as head of the family but was totally against the accepted social conventions. Having got his own way, the younger son left home for ‘a country far away, where he wasted his money in reckless living’ (v.13 [GNB]), probably just what his father expected. But the father was waiting to receive him back into the family with joy when he returned home after realising what a mistake he had made (v.20).
It really is a picture of God, our heavenly Father, who doesn’t give up on us, His children, and longs to restore our relationship with Him, however long it has been broken and whatever cross purposes we got into. He proved this by sending His only Son, Jesus Christ, into the world with the literal and ultimate Cross Purpose of showing the full extent of His love for us. Jesus did this
when He was crucified, dying on the Cross at Calvary for the forgiveness of our sins so that nothing would stand in the way of our ‘returning home’ to the Father, who in His great love, waits to welcome us.








